Sure, YESTERDAY was good and has given us some fond memories,
Yet we believe that TOMORROW will be even better.
The plans we’ve made TODAY will improve the quality of our lives
And provide more prosperity in the future!
It is healthy for us to be positive about our future and to have dreams of brighter days ahead; we were created to be that way. However, it is not healthy to put our lives on hold–waiting for happier and more rewarding times. We fool ourselves into thinking that:
- “When I am married, I will be happier.”
- “When I finish school, I will get a good job and make a lot more money.”
- “When I retire, I will have time to do the things I want to do now.”
In other words, there is always “WHEN” before things will be better and before we will be happy. Do you see the flaw in this type of thinking?
We can be happy only when we learn to live in the now. We need to recognize the situation we live in and accept it for what it is now. Happiness means we make the best of each and every minute that we live and learn from our mistakes.
Do not misunderstand me. I am not saying that we should give up on things getting better or that we should live as if there is no tomorrow by indulging ourselves and doing things that we will regret tomorrow.
I am saying that yesterday taught us how we want to live our lives now and childhood experiences taught us how to be happy with simplicity. Yesterday has made us who we are today, and tomorrow represents the choices we make today.
We cannot live in the past, and neither can we try to stand on past accomplishments so we stop progressing in the present. We need new dreams, new goals, and a new plan that is based on the realities of today.
Judging success and happiness on what has happened in the past or on what will happen in the future is a mistake. We are not the same person today as we were yesterday or as we will be tomorrow. We don’t know what trials and circumstances we will face in the future and what tools we will have available to overcome them. All we have is “NOW” to be happy and successful according to the standards that we’ve set for today. We need to take life as it comes and make it mean something to us in that moment.
Success is measured in many different ways by society and viewed by yourself in a variety of ways as well. Success can just be doing what you have always wanted to do and being the person you want to be. It doesn’t have to be what others think is successful, it’s what you value that is a true measure of your success.
For example, I wrote a book that I felt would help people avoid some of the pitfalls in life that I discovered and tell them what I learned about being a happier and more peaceful person. I succeeded in this endeavor because I did what I wanted to do. In other words, I published two books and helped people make their lives better through my writings; doing that has been very satisfying to me.
- Did I make a lot of money like I thought I would? No I did not!
- Does this mean that I am not successful? It depends on what I expected.
- What did I say I wanted to do? I said that I wanted to write a book to help people learn from my mistakes. Is that what I did? Yes, I did what I said I wanted to do!
- Does it mean that I succeeded in doing what I wanted to do? Yes, and it helped people improve situations in their lives! As far as I am concerned, I succeeded in every aspect of my goals. Yes, more money would have been nice. However, my vision did not include becoming financially wealthy.
Hope and visions of the future keep us motivated and give us a reason to do things that prepare us for a better days. My point is to live our lives according to the standards that we’ve set for ourselves and that make us happy in our present circumstances.
We need to live each day as if we’re ready to meet our maker. In addition, we need to be satisfied that we are right with God, right with our personal and business dealings, and right with family members. Most importantly, we need to be grateful for the breath that we take each day and be thankful for all that we have been given in life.
The power within gives us the ability to be the person we want to be. We can choose to be angry and nasty or to be happy and grateful. We can make each day be whatever we choose to make it. In other words, the day will be what we make of it.
We actually change the world around us when we understand who we are and our responsibility to affect the world in a positive way. I believe these words whole-heartedly, and I know this is wisdom found through my own experiences.
I know that life is not pleasant or beautiful when so much ugliness is around us, yet we see what we choose to see. Just because we know the reality of life, it doesn’t mean that we have to live according to the world’s ways — being in the world but not of the world. We can be the kind of person we choose to be and live our lives according to our own standards!
I believe this is how we need live our lives. This means that we should not worry about what we are going to say or do or if that will affect how we will be accepted. We just need to start doing, saying, and being and then allow it be whatever it is. We cannot be overly concerned about who is paying attention to us or to what we have to say.
We may never know how we affect people by our words or deeds. We need not dwell on it and just do what we know we need to do — without our motivation being to change people or to make them be who we think they should be. What we do and say needs to be what we know to be true for us and then allow others to do what they think is the right for them.
For example, I redirected my negative energy after 9/11 by writing in my journal. Writing is how I made it through depression and bless my life. What I wrote turned into a book when I realized that others might be suffering in the same way. I thought that, perhaps, my experiences might help them get through their problems with depression and excessive thinking. Actually the original manuscript turned into a six book series, with more to come (five still needing to be published).
It is true that I hope someone reads this posting and benefits from it, only because I believe there is inspiration in this writing. However, this is not the main purpose for writing this post. My purpose is to share what I’ve learned with you and then you decide if it has value for you. I feel inspired to write and so I do. Perhaps you will gain something more than just reading words and decide, like I did, to make a difference in your life… making choices that bless your life (like writing in my journal helped me). You may want to do as I have and write your own blog or start a journal.
We should try to live our lives according to the inspirations that we receive for present circumstances. How else can we know how to face the scary times ahead and know what to do? We just have to live by the promptings that come to us.
Now, if you just happened to stop by for a visit, please leave me a note to let me know that you came by . . . I would like to hear from you, read your comments, and perhaps hear about your life experiences.
In conclusion, let me say that I hope people will become more comfortable with who they are and not try so hard to be more acceptable to their peers.